A few months ago I broke down and talked to my new doctor about my spouse’s melanoma.
He was diagnosed a month after the twins were born and given a poor prognosis. Fifty percent chance of survival at five years with treatment.
He had the original mole/tumor removed, and never went back.
Fast forward 2.5 years and I still have a lot of questions. He has more strange looking moles becoming more apparent.
My assumption is that it’s spread. I brought it up to the doctor, told him the timeline, and prognosis.
He was immediately concerned.
His first words we’re, “The funny thing about Mets is, they start off small and depending on where they are they can take a very long time to grow.”
I like this doctor… I think He should be a professor for how well explains medical stuff to me.
We discussed the locations and likelihood of growth in his lungs, internal organs and brain.
Even in the brain, there are many outcomes of growth of a metastasis.
So I watch and wait. I really don’t know what for. For illness I suppose, for unusual weight loss or behavior changes, or coordination issues.
I question his bleeding. He bleeds a lot in his sleep due to being a construction worker. Blood on the floor in the bathroom or toilet. I wonder an abnormal amount.
I’ve developed a back up plan of his behavior changes more than to be expected considering everything.
If he gets violent. Because that can happen… And we have kids.
I’ve tried to start looking at career options and due to being an almost 40 year old, and a stay at home parent, my chances of a normal career are slim.
I’m past being terrified, I’m just holding onto hope that maybe it’s a bad dream until the day comes that it’s just a terrible fact.
Cancer hides and so do some cancer sufferers.
And on a related note: check your skin once a month. Especially if you have a freckle or mole that is unusual. Don’t put off going to the doctor. Early detection and treatment increases survival by a lot.