Connor and the little blob did it.

So many people have said it over the years and for some reason, it fell on deaf ears. But Connor said it, and I heard something. Why Connor, (a precocious 22 year old) and why then?


Maybe I was ready, maybe my little fire in my belly is a reason. Up until now I had so little to fight for, and not much to really live for. Things have changed.


I have a little blob that has decided to reside in my tummy, and hormones aside, I know that I’m attempting to bring a new human into this crazy, and neglected… nay abused world. What kind of life is this little person going to live? Will digital bullying still be prevalent, but the technology will be embedded and permanent with no way to switch off? Or will we be headed into social chaos, civilization collapse and a destiny of basic survival in slums and piles of garbage?


Should I carry this little thing? Should I, despite ever more hungry mouths and ever more economic instability, tyranny, and religious upheaval, carry this little blob to humanhood? What do I have to offer this new life within, or society at large for that matter? You may be wondering why I correlate these two things, but really, when and if this little blob becomes an adult, the responsibility of guiding this person to be a happy, whole human that has healthy values, and an open yet discerning mind is mine….well and a little of baby daddy too 😉


How do I protect that person from the dangers of indoctrination, yet not indoctrinate them myself? How do I show them that the world is actually full of beautiful humans, and amazing things that are worth loving and protecting, yet ensure that they are always wary of the few people out to harm others?


I want to make sure this being is raised in a balanced, aware environment with no judgement, but opportunities to grow, flourish and feel secure.


Which leads me to what I have to offer. If I’m already thinking about it, I suppose what I mentioned above are related to my core values, and that is what I want for all people.


I want all humans to have the opportunity to be themselves, and the opportunity to cultivate their strengths and find ways to overcome their weakness. I want all humans to have a future that they can determine, and have the ability to choose what is best for themselves, without fear of reprisal, without fear of pain or loss of personal security.


I want wars to stop, because no human, deserves to live in fear. I want to see all humans have the opportunity to place what they have to offer on society’s table, and have society embrace their unique perspective, and skillset to help move us forward.


Each person has the most understanding what would serve themselves and their community best, and at this point in history,  humans at large are being prevented from becoming the best they can be, prevented for being everyday heros, from learning their passions and strengths, and losing the opportunity to offer themselves to their community at large. They live life unfulfilled, and are told, “That’s all there is.” by other people who are resting in the lap of luxury, playing, and exploring the world at large and their souls within. Those who have either learned and have little moral direction that have happily fudged the rules that everyone is expected to abide by, and stepped on other people to get there, and many others who were born into it thinking that they are entitled regardless of the fact that they just happened to win the uterine lottery.


The American Dream has become a surreal nightmare.


I never thought of the American Dream as financial success, but more a concept of a place where one could go to self actualize, and live a life of fulfillment and personal security from Imperialism and tyranny. A dream where, as long as one gave back to their community, a person would have free reign to flourish in their own way, and cut new paths to the future. Where hard work and a little moxie could open new vistas that hadn’t been discovered.


But now the American Dream has been tainted and slowly converted to the same values that the founding fathers of the nations of America had left behind them. The American Dream no longer supports ingenuity, freedom or fulfillment.


And now that the world is full, and there are no more frontiers where we can go to build it better, and have the life we want for ourselves and our loved ones, what do we do?


How do we build civilization in a civil and whole manner, while we watch our human brothers and sisters get all blown to pieces for profit and power, in the name of peace and god? How do people that are peaceful prevent the fighting of people that aren’t peaceful, without getting caught in the crossfire or jailed for voicing our opinions?


How do we reclaim the American Dream and share that Dream with others around the world? And I mean share. Not forcefully place it one others….  How do I let my unborn child have that opportunity, and at the same time ensure that my loving neighbors around the world have those same opportunities to “Be who they are” in a safe and nurturing environment?


Imagine a world where all people could bring their strengths to the table, without fear of reprisal or judgement, and were able to have rational discussions and give it (see humanity) their best. What kind of world could we have?


Imagine resources shared, and knowledge shared with no need for a PhD or a CEO designation for one’s personal understanding to hold credence among one’s peers? And the foundational ability to act upon that knowledge and build better things regardless of monetary value?


Imagine a world where mothers have a say in their children’s education, a say in their own body and to determine their own existence, and where fathers can provide the means without undermining their masculinity or personal development? A world where both parents give guidance and resources to ensure that child can also be the best they can be, without fear of war, famine, disease, and death with the added benefit of hellfire for thinking for oneself?


Connor told me, I have a lot to offer the world but I don’t know what it is yet. And he was right. I don’t. But I’m trying to figure it out, and now I have a reason to do so quickly.

But what I do know, is that I have big hopes for the human race, I have big hopes for the blob growing inside, and at this point, until I know what I have to offer, I will give my best effort for now, which is write, dissect and modernize old wisdom, and create beauty around me, and show love and compassion to all I encounter including myself.

Why? Because all humans deserve better, and all humans have something to offer.



We’ve all seen on our media of choice the spectacle of some random human “Melting down” in some situation in a public place. A person that for some reason reacts with irrational anger towards what seems a mild inconvenience or a trivial matter. The public watches the trainwreck unfold, and snickers, jeers and general distain for that person.

Guess what? That’s bullying. We are making fun publicly of someone that is crisis at worst, or standing by watching it with no concept of compassion at best. Where are kids learning to be assholes? From a bunch of messed up adults.

We hear about the mass murders on our back doorstep perpetrated by that “quiet guy next door” person. We also see vagrants, junkies and prostitutes, and we judge them with impunity.

How many people, young men espcially, are committing suicide on a daily basis? Think about it. 3500 anually, just below deaths due to cancer of the colon and breast. So, we do charity activities for breast and colon cancer and we do little to nothing about completely preventable death.

Sucide doesn’t end up on the news, or get properly talked about, because it’s embarrassing, and deeply painful. Survivors spend the rest of their lives questioning what part they had in the death of a loved one, constantly wondering if there was anything they could have done or not done to prevent it. They suffer in intimate silence, with no answers and minimal support.

We walk away from friends that are in crisis because we don’t understand or can’t make the time for them, and expect them to work within our framework of life regardless of whether they are capable or not (NO PRESSURE MR. ANXIETY GUY, BUT DO WHAT I TELL YOU. OR ELSE.). There is an idea that, “You don’t look sick, or injured so you must be faking it.” But in reality that internal pain is immense and uncontrollable. Medication only adjusts seratonin receptors and doesn’t change or deal with the factors that are actually causing the issues.

These meltdowns are happening in every corner of our social lives. Most are insidious and unremarkable, they are generally socially acceptable and therefore go unnoticed.

Make a list of people you know that are self medicating… including social and regular media, gaming & internet, television, illicit drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, herbal meds, etc. then, add to that list people on pharms: valium, a.d.h.d. meds, anti-depressants, anti-anxiety etc.

Then make a list of people that do the following: over exertion (exercising too much), working to the point of self and relationship destruction, people obsessed with their looks and the modification thereof, helicopter parenting, helicopter spousing, drama instigation, eating disorders which include: anorexia, bulemia, strangely obsessive fad diets etc., and greed.

After that, we move into the realm of narcissism, codependency, spousal and child abuse, abuse of authority, over zealous religious or political ideology, megalomania, micromanagement, normalized bullying, isolation tactics etc.

These are all meltdowns, they are all signs of mental illness, and most go unaddressed regardless of the fact that it is unhealthy behaviour. We listen to talk show hosts and radio personalities jumo on the trainwreck, and wonder why children are doing it.

The tendency seems to be people are overwhelmed and feel there is a lack of personal security or control over one’s destiny, and the options are, to avoid everything through medication, control their own bodies in ways that may not be healthy, or control other people to achieve that sense of false security. When those tactics stop working, we lash out in ways that are irrational and uncontrollable, and then become a spectacle.

I’m not trying to create fear, but I am trying to point out that we are all melting down, and we are all having problems. As it stands, my fear is that there will be more meltdowns before people realize we need to slow down and take care of ourselves, and each other with compassion and moderation.

Have a happy

For the last couple of decades instead of a standard farewell, I generally tell people to, “Have a Happy!”. The first time I use it one someone in my life, they generally get slightly confused and chuckle, and ask, ” A Happy What?”

To which I reply, ” A Happy whatever it is that you do, that makes you Happy.”

There may be discussion about having A Happy, and if they get it, they understand that Having A Happy, could be a cup of tea, a well deserved rest, or a walk in the park video games etc. Whatever it is you do that gives you an inner smile, is A Happy.

I’ve come to realize over time that I hadn’t been giving myself the same advice, because I don’t give myself farewells. This means I’ve neglected my Happy, and in some cases unintentionally stopped being responsible for my Happy. I expected other people to share their Happy with me.

It’s fine to share your Happy with other people here and there, but another person’s Happy won’t sustain you the way that your own Happy will. And nobody is responsible for your Happy, just like you aren’t responsible for theirs. You can take a ride, or play with someone’s Happy all you want, or sometimes take other Happys on playdates with your Happy, but at the end of the day, It’s your Happy, take care of it, feed it and nurture it, and it will take care of you right back.

So I want to add to my greetings ie. “how are you/ what’s new?” to, “How’s Your Happy?” either it will hurt Happys or it will help Happys, but maybe it’s worth trying.

Have a Happy, and treat that Happy well

hoping for successful humaning everywhere.

Two probability waves ever expanding. Two possible outcomes.

There are billions of people that walk this planet that are just like you and I. Moderate, wishing to have all needs covered, with gravy and maybe an opportunity to self actuate.

But is a small percentage of people that are indoctrinated or maybe actually psychologically unwell and think that the end of the world, a messiah and the kindgom of heaven shall be brought to earth. These people also feel for whatever reason, that they are instruments of a deity that are meant to usher in a prophecy describing these things, and oddly enough are in many levels of power in all different facets of society.

Some of what has happened is that these fringe groups have adopted facist propaganda tools to further their ideals regardless of how quickly things turn sour, and regardless of the severe ethical consequences if left unchecked.

But here we sit. Literally on the brink of a self imposed extinction of most species on our planet with the hope that completely obliterating everything will bring us a saviour to stop us from completely obliterating ourselves. Makes sense.

Many moderates are now afraid to speak up, or if they aren’t, they have no idea how to get their idea of peace, coexistence, ethical and sustainable progress forward without somehow being publicly destroyed.

So.. in that… the very people that are trying to save the earth, acting as messiahs, are being strung up again and again in order to make sure we fulfill everything and the planet is not habitable so we can demand that someone save us from the certain death that we created. We need someone to save us!! Just not you, or him, or her, or anyone else for that matter.

Um. yeah.

So the idea of a kingdom in heaven or a heaven on earth, I think Marx was kinda looking at the concept sans “religious indoctrination”

** note that faith is a different concept which is personal and should be treated as one would treat their genitals in public**

So what is this kingdom that we are looking forward to having providing there is some messiah ( I hope it’s a woman ) that saves us just before we shit the bed?

Is it a non corporeal state floating around minus the whole “dying to get there first”, idea?

Or is it the next step in human evolution where all humans have autonomous control over their own lives future and destiny, being given every opportunity to live love and grow, to actualize and become refined in their personhood and giving the best they have to a community that give the individual the best it has?

Is it a life where we work in livelihoods that we can contribute to with our strengths and quirks, which contributes to society at large, a life where we play in ways that allow us to have the freedom to explore and interact in emotional, intellectual and physical ways? Where true individuality and passion for life is celebrated, and healthy self love is just as important as love for others? Or if a whole human is the highest form of achievement?

I have to ask, what then? Whole humans accepting each other celebrating difference, seeing novelty and eccentricity as an opportunity to grow individually, as well as contribute to a sustainable and civil civilization. Where we neither live to work, nor work to live. We Live Life and all things we do are complimentary to our whole being.

Technology, and interconnectedness merging in new ways, deliberate and incedental networking giving opportunity, and collaboration of people of all walks of life giving the fuel to propel us. So many want change, and we all do our parts in some concept of a greater good. Maybe the next piece of the pie is a common general goal…

Not a kingdom of heaven, nor a utopia as humaning tends to be unpredictable, but a goal for us all to find ways, with our own strengths and virtues to facilitate humans to become whole, to become self aware and learn to Live Life and be Whole.

The rest.. ie. world being better, advancements that will put us in space, and other ontold unprdictable awesome things will happen, as they tend to do.

The first step towards the “Class One Civilization” isn’t harnessing new fuels and technology, as all that is already there, it’s tending humans and creating an actual civilization. That’s all civil, responsible and other nice stuff 😀

Plant a seed and give a hand.

Be Brave…. and risk Love.

Dish out compassion like it’s going out of style, and try to get into discussions with people you normally wouldn’t, and instead of who’s right or wrong, think, this is an opportunity to grow! What can I learn, and what do I have to offer to this person?

Have a happy!